So I am an American from Chicago living in Ho Chi Minh City since November. Finding the right woman to be at my side has been a challenge. Especially when everyone thinks I just got off an airplane and that means I must have corona virus. I lived here before Corona so I don’t have Corona! Anyways, in the past, I tried dating apps and I quickly get disappointed. Here are some of the things I learned, some of the things I avoid as a guy searching for Mrs. Right online. Keep in mind I am a good guy, looking for a good girl. If you are a bad guy looking for a bad girl or vice versa, you can just ignore all of this haha. It’s just advice, what you do with it is up to you!
The number one thing I avoid is someone who is trying to hide their identity. They are hiding their identity online for a reason. If you respond to one of these you’re probably going to find a chick who has a boyfriend or a husband, who will likely be at your doorstep one morning. No profile picture, no photo, nothing = no thanks in my book. This is the number one type of profile I avoid. I mean seriously, who does this and expects a response?
Okay I said alot about the types of profiles I do NOT like. So in all fairness I thought I should tell you a couple of the things that I DO LIKE to see in a woman’s profile!
I hope you found some of what I wrote here helpful. I’m just trying to let you see through a guy’s eyes, a good guys eyes. If you’re looking for a bad boy, just pretend you didn’t hear any of this and you’re likely going to find one.
Once you find someone you feel a connection with, I suggest you pause on everybody else. Focus on the one that you like. Talking to multiple people might intertwine your feelings for the them and make it harder to sort them out later. In the worst-case scenario, it may make you start a relationship built on false feelings and that’s a relationship that should never have been started in the first place.
I am still single but I have found someone I enjoy being around. She recently invited me to spend time with her family, this meant the world to me because I have very little close family left in this world. So I am taking a break from all the apps, hopefully it’s a permanent break. Because I have fallen for her and I fell for all the right reasons. I know I love her, my reasons are plenty. I just want to be here for her. She had some bad luck lately. I am just trying to change her circumstances, change her life for the better. I just want to put kisses where he caused injury. I want to make her future better, brighter and happier. I want to be the shoulder she needs to rest on and at times the shoulder she needs to cry on. I want her to feel cared for when she finds her hand resting gently in mine. I want her to feel safe in my arms. I want her to know she is most attractive when she is happy. I want her to know that I am proud of the woman she is becoming. I want her I enjoy watching her, listening to her. I love her because she is educated. She is smart, she is funny. The list goes on and on. I want her to know I am here and I am ready to run into the good and bad times with her. It’s not always going to be easy but that’s life. I want to ride the roller coaster of life with her. I want to dance with her, run with her, hike with her, travel with her. I want to live life with her. I want to fall asleep after I help her fall asleep with my arms around her. I will always be listening for her laughter and her tears. I just hope she continues to open her heart to me. I’ll just keep praying.
Mom said “If you love someone tell them. Do not wait a minute, a second, a single day. Because you never know when you are seeing someone for the last time…” so I told her and we will see how this unfolds…
Mom also warned me that sometimes it will come back to you and sometimes it wont.
My best advice, “Never stop someone who is trying to love you…”
I will leave you with one of my poems…
A man is someone who doesn’t just say what he means but means what he says. A man someone who stands up for anything he believes in regardless of the cost. A Man is someone who listens to a woman, understands her, defends her, protects her, sometimes even from herself. A man stands up for those who cannot stand up for themselves. A man takes a bullet for a stranger. A man sees something wrong and he does something about it, without thinking twice. A man loves with all his heart. A man suffers with all his heart. A man is good about winning and bad about losing but understands there’s always something to be learned when you lose so he can make himself better going forward. A man takes care of family first. A man is someone who demonstrates his worthiness with actions rather than words. A man knows that life without risk is not life at all. A man knows not to risk more than he can afford to lose but understands that sometimes he is going to have to. A man knows it doesn’t matter how many times he falls of the horse, all that matters is that he gets back on. A man knows how to calm a woman’s fears. A man knows what she wants to hear and what she needs to hear and knows there is a time and consequence for both. A man understands the importance of time. A man knows never is it too late, to make right, some wrongs. A man knows the importance of prayers. A man never quits dreaming and never quits trying for the things he believes in. A man forgives. A man who finds a good woman to be at his side will work harder than one who doesn’t. A man trusts everyone or until he has a reason not to. A man can survive on his own but he shouldn’t have to and that’s why Gods most beautiful creation is “the woman” 🙂
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